WHAT HELPED YOU?
Real strength Real experiences.
Let's stop the acceptance, the avoidance and start demanding the law be followed.
No more excuses.
Our elderly, the vulnerable need safeguarding.
This page is not about giving up.
It’s about the real things that helped families stay strong, stay steady, and refuse to give up when facing confusing, isolating or unfair Power of Attorney situations.
None of us should have had to learn any of this.
But we did — and sharing it may help someone else hold the line.
If something feels wrong, it usually is.
You’re not imagining it — and you’re not alone.
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🌼 WHAT OTHERS SAY HELPED THEM KEEP GOING
(Not “advice”. Survival strategies.)
• Documenting everything.
“Dates, names, emails. It protected me when people tried to change the story.”
• Quoting the law.
“Once I learned AWI Section 1 and repeated it calmly, the tone shifted instantly.”
• Not accepting ‘the PoA says no’.
Asking: “What legal authority allows this?”
Most staff cannot give one.
• Knowing emotional harm is real harm.
Isolation is not a ‘family issue’. It’s abuse — recognised in the ASP Act.
• Realising we don’t need anyone’s permission to contact:
ASP / MWC / OPG / Care Inspectorate / MSPs.
• Speaking firmly but calmly, even when breaking inside.
It stopped people shutting down conversations.
• Finding another family going through it.
“It changed everything. I wasn’t crazy. I wasn’t alone.”
• Remembering: “I am not the problem.”
The silence, dismissals, and avoidance — that was the problem.
• Not giving up — ever.
“My first complaint was ignored.
My second was dismissed.
My fifth finally opened a door.”
These aren’t small lessons.
These are hard-won truths from people who refused to walk away.
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🌼 PLEASE SHARE WHAT HELPED YOU
Your insight might be:
• a phrase that finally made someone listen
• a complaint that worked on the 7th attempt
• an approach that opened a door
• a mistake you’ll never repeat
• something you wish someone had told you sooner
• or simply: “I kept going.”
If you’ve had even one small success, we would love to hear it.
Your breakthrough might be the lifeline someone else needs.
If you’ve already been through this and come out the other side, your guidance can help the rest of us navigate a system that gives families no roadmap.
(You can stay completely anonymous. Nothing is ever shared without your permission.)
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🌼 WHY THIS MATTERS
We shouldn’t need strength, persistence or legal knowledge just to be part of our loved one’s life.
But families across Scotland are being forced to learn this the hard way — quietly, painfully, and alone.
By sharing what helped you, you are helping the next person who feels scared, confused or silenced.
Together we become stronger — and harder for anyone to ignore.
We support each other.
We stand by each other.
We fight for our families, side by side.
With courage and solidarity,
Some Scottish families who refused to be silent.
EVERY MESSAGE HELPS BUILD THE BIGGER PICTURE.
LET'S SHOW SCOTLAND WHAT IS REALLY HAPPENING BEHIND CLOSED DOORS 💛
🌿 A gentle note
This page is based on public information from Scottish law.
We are not lawyers — we’re families who learned the hard way.
Nothing here is legal advice.
Everything you share stays private.
Now use your voice — and let us know what worked for you.
Your experience could help the next family find their way. 💛